“I have found the best way to give advice to your children is to find out what they want and then advise them to do it.” Harry S. Truman

Only parents of kids that are pretty well grown up will understand this completely. You can suggest all sorts of things but as a child ages and becomes a young adult they have in their mind what it is they want to do. If you are not in tune to that, if they haven’t shared it, or you haven’t listened well, then you will be kicking against the brambles to suggest something else.