love #2 2014

 

For Your Better

There’s part of me that disagrees with this.  After all, don’t we want to be in a relationship where the other person is encouraging us to be better than we are, to change for the better?  I know I am not perfect and could be better so why not have someone who wants that for me as well?  Don’t I want to be in that sort of relationship?

For Their Better

But we know this is not what this quote is talking about, don’t we.  This quote is warning against, not the person who wants the best for you, but the person who wants the best for them.  They don’t want you to change for the better because it’s your desire. They want you to change to meet their desire.  They want you to be prettier, or have bigger boobs, or make more money, or be more of a do-it-yourselfer, or more religious, or a million other things.  But they want it to make their life what they want, not what you want for your own life.. They want the hot wife or husband, or the bigger house or the greater religious reputation.  Maybe they want life to be easier for themselves and it would be if you didn’t annoy them so much with your hobbies or your style or your habits or, or, or….the list goes on.

Who to Avoid

If someone see and hears from you that you want to be this or that in the future, then of course we want that person to be supportive and encouraging about that change.  But when we don’t initiate it, but it comes from their desire to control you and turn you into who they want? That is the person to avoid at all costs.

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Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman

Quote by Quentin Crisp, 1908 – 1999, English raconteur.   He lived a very interesting and unique life, well worth reading up on if you are worried about your individuality being too ‘individual’. 

 

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