by Marty Coleman | Jul 31, 2010 | Leo Tolstoy |
A vintage napkin (from somewhere between 1998-2000 most likely) that I put in my daughters’ lunches before school.
Ever seen an ugly hero/heroine (besides Shrek) or a good looking villian? Why is that? Why do we think beauty equals goodness?
Drawing by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily.
Quote by Leo Tolstoy, 1828-1920, Russian Writer. Check out the movie ‘The Last Station’ for an enlightening and entertaining view of the last years of his life.
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by Marty Coleman | Jul 30, 2010 | Penn Jillette, The Internet - 2010 |
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I now have a Slide Show page. This month’s drawings can be seen all at one time here:
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Day #5 of Internet Week at The Napkin Dad Daily
Perhaps your first thought after reading this is imagining a sexual creep. And no doubt, there are plenty of those. But what I think about more are the ones that are the most perverse, the creepiest, the ones that put a shiver down my spine. they aren’t the sexual ones, they are the violent ones.
The ones who promote violence against women, children, immigrants, african-americans, government representatives, corporate officers, police, spiritual systems not their own and more. There might be a sexual sadism to some of these creeps, but in it’s essence the perversity is about violence.
They have rage that is disconnected from reality, reason, civility, morality. They aren’t interested in understanding anything. They just want to attack, and attack they do. I have come across pages where the level of vehemence is so high I can only imagine the toxic ‘smell’ in the place those words are being typed.
There is only one simple antidote to this, and it is your own goodness. Fighting against violence is good and important, but not all of us can do that first hand. What we can do is make sure we never contribute to it with time, money, encouragement or tacit agreement. Don’t let that happen.
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Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily
Quote by Penn Jillette, 1955- not dead yet, American entertainer
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by Marty Coleman | Jul 29, 2010 | Esther Dyson, The Internet - 2010 |
Day #4 of Internet Week
I hadn’t thought about it before but this quote is so frickin’ accurate it’s scary.
- The mean-spirited get drunk in their maliciousness.
- The loner becomes the lurker.
- The sarcastic become world famous snarkers.
- The sweet hearted become boundary breaking encouragers and supporters.
- The pretentious intellectual becomes a know-it-all bore.
- The funny thinker becomes the life of the chat room party.
The distance from consequences of a real relationship and the safety from physical violence are the main chemicals that replace the alcohol molecule but the effect is the same. You say and do things that would usually remain in check, would remain more subtle.
Sometimes these things are good. Just as sometimes a person comes out of their shell a bit if they have a drink or two, so it is on the internet. But it’s also filled with weboholics, those who go too far, talking and acting in ways they never would in real life or if they were sober.
Who are you on the internet?
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Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman
Quote by Esther Dyson, 1951-not dead yet, Swiss born journalist, venture capitalist and commentator on digital technology.
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by Marty Coleman | Jul 28, 2010 | The Internet - 2010, Tim May |
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Day #3 of Internet Week at The Napkin Dad Daily
When I first went online, about 1993, I talked to people in the USA, that’s it. When I started using AOL and Compuserve in the mid 90s I would occasionally meet people from other English speaking countries. When I started posting photos and drawings on Flickr around 2005 I made friends with Icelanders, Swedes, Chinese, Japanese, Brazilians, French, Spaniards, Mexicans, Brits and more.
I had blog visitors from 34 countries last month. That includes a visitor from Windhoek, in Namibia, Africa. Have you ever seen a the google map locating Windhoek in Namibia? It’s an isolated city.
Some stats:
- 847 miles – distance to Johannesburg, South Africa, the closest large city
- 8,376 miles – from Oklahoma, US. (my home)
- 7,167 miles – distance over the waters of the north and south Atlantic.
- $3,223.00 – cost to travel there (cheapest flight, about 200 connections it seems)
- 37 hours – Time to get there (if lucky)
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This month someone in Windhoek looked at my blog. They spent 11 minutes reading it. If they wanted to talk to me they could email, chat, skype, blog, FB or tweet with me. They could video conference with me and show me live feeds of themselves, home, dogs, shoes, lunch, car, office, husband or wife, storms, or garden or a million other things.
What a great world we live in. I am grateful for these things and I thank those who invented, produced, financed, sold, implemented and distributed these things so I can have them in my life.
Where are you in the world? Tell me about it in the comments, ok? I love geography and finding out about where people live, whether near or far.
Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily
Quote by Tim May, Software Engineer
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by Marty Coleman | Jul 24, 2010 | Johann Goethe |
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A vintage napkin from 2002. I drew two versions of this and put them in my daughters’ lunches to take to High School.
If you have a lover or friend that tries to dominate and calls it love, don’t believe them. They are confusing control for love and it’s dangerous.
Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily
Quote by Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, 1749-1832, German writer
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by Marty Coleman | Jul 20, 2010 | Heat, William Penn |
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Day #2 of Heat Week at The Napkin Dad Daily. It’s 97ºƒ (108º heat index) / 37ºc (42.2º) Here in Tulsa, Oklahoma (USA) again today.
“It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.”
Have you ever heard that line spoken to you? I have. They didn’t like my way of talking and that kept them from being able to hear what I was saying. In most cases it was my fault. I was saying things in a way that obscured rather than clarified. It’s like a graphic design advertisement that is so wild and over the top that you can’t read any of the words on it. That isn’t a good strategy if you are trying to communicate.
The same goes for arguments regarding ‘truth’. The overheated blowhards who rant and rave against whatever their flavor of the week is aren’t doing their cause any favors. The hot air they put out is entertainment for their minions but it doesn’t build a foundation of intelligent and thoughtful argument. It’s simply the scorching wind of heat without light.
The antidote is to be cool and thoughtful in your response. It may not seem to be the most entertaining and often doesn’t have that satisfying adrenalin rush that an angry rant has, but in the long run it is the most effective way to put your argument forward.
Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily
Quote by William Penn, 1644-1718, founder of the state of Pennsylvania
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by Marty Coleman | Jul 19, 2010 | Caroline Schroeder, Heat |
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Someone told me I should do a series on heat since it has been so hot this summer around the entire North American continent (and parts of Europe I hear). So, it’s Heat Week at The Napkin Dad Daily!
One of the easiest things to do is change your mind due to being intellectually enlightened. But changing behavior from your heart, your core, that is very hard to do by cool intellectual thought. Of course eventually if you change your mind about something you might find yourself changing your attitudes or behaviors down the road, incrementally. And it’s likely they will be long lasting as a result. But a sudden transformation? Not as likely.
Heat on the other hand will cause changes faster than you can say ‘fire truck’. That is why AA and other addiction programs talk about a person having to hit rock bottom before they will change. They have to feel the heat of their life falling down all around them. Maybe they lose everything, are at the end of their rope. That sort of heat leads to change. You see it often in religious conversions as well as behavior changes.
The problem with heat related changes is they can often be short-lived. The emotion, the danger, the fear all lead to a promise to change, and will to change, but once the heat has passed, it takes a cool light to continue to lead the way, to make a change permanent. That is why threats of hell or damnation or some other fear based idea aren’t good. They make people feel heat, but they don’t help them see the light.
So, whether with yourself, family, friends or your children always be ready to supply the light when the heat has died down, which it eventually will.
Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily
Quote by Caroline Schoeder, no information available. If you find any, forward it to me please, thank you.
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by Marty Coleman | Jul 17, 2010 | Augustine |
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A vintage napkin from 2004. I put this in my daughter’s lunch.
I am not sure I agree with this, do you? I like pride, I just think you have take it for what it is. It’s a type of compliment, either to yourself or to another. If you think it, acknowledge it then there isn’t much more to do with it. Pride doesn’t achieve anything, it just sits there. If you understand that is its place then I don’t think it is destructive.
What do you think?
Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily
Quote by Saint Augustine, 454 AD – 430 AD, Bishop of Hippo
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by Marty Coleman | Jul 16, 2010 | Betty Rollins, Having Sex - 2010 |
Day #5 of Having Sex Week at The Napkin Dad Daily
Wait a second, isn’t this a sexist comment? Maybe, if you think being a ‘sex object’ is wrong under any circumstances. I define ‘sex object’ as being the object of sexual desire.
It is true in the great myth of Venus. She is stripped of a well rounded set of human traits, reduced to represent one thing, sex. The most famous of her images, the sculpture ‘Venus de Milo’ is without arms, unable to do anything but stand there, frozen as an object. Of course, that isn’t how the sculpture was created, but it’s current state makes it a great example of what I am talking about.
In the media, that idea of sex object is stripped down to its most basic elements. There is an objectification on top of objectification until you get to where there is nothing but an unknown object and a single minded desire for that object. That type of ‘sex object’ is pretty empty and eventually unfulfilling for both the object and the objectifier.
But in the complete human experience, a real life lived by a real human (male or female), being the object of sexual desire isn’t off the table. It is available to the well rounded person who wants that. The problem comes when that becomes the primary means of feeling value or getting attention and affection.
So, by all means, be a sex object if you want. It can be fun and playful. But watch out for that taking over and being ALL you are focused on being.
Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily
Quote by Betty Rollins, 1936-not dead yet, American author and reporter.
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by Marty Coleman | Jul 15, 2010 | Having Sex - 2010, Mae West |
Napkin Dad cards available at Zazzle. Birthday, condolence, going away and more.
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Day #4 of Having Sex Week at The Napkin Dad Daily
Here is the issue about emotion in sex and love. Men often have too little of it (emotion that is) and women often have too much of it.
For you women, actually it isn’t just that men have less of it than you do. It’s also that they don’t know they have it in the first place. They feel just a hint of something, but they don’t investigate it. It is left unformed and uninvestigated. Men are often not even aware it WAS a feeling they had, and if they did realize it, they aren’t sure what that feeling represented. They don’t name it and categorize it.
For you men, actually it isn’t that women just have more of it than you do. It’s also that they investigate deeper into the emotions they do have. To them they are a mobius strip of never ending investigations. And not just their emotions, but yours as well. They figure you are exploring yours as deeply as they are their own and so they want to know what it is you are feeling. They are working at defining what it is they felt and where it sits in relation to her other emotions and yours. When you aren’t able to say what it is your feel, it’s easy for them to think you either are hiding something or don’t feel anything.
That is why sex is often such a emotionally bonding experience for both men and women. It isn’t primarily about words. It’s about motion and sensory experience and the emotions are created through those things. Sex is good that way.
Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman of The Napkin Dad Daily
Quote by Mae West, 1893-1980, American playwright and actress. Read her bio, she was an amazing woman well ahead of her time. Incredibly creative and ambitious. I didn’t realize she wrote many of the plays and movies she starred in.
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