Promising Pleasure, Promising Pain – Promises, Promises #4

 

I promise to deliver #4 in the Promises, Promises series!

 

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Pleasure and Pain

Having chosen my quote for the day I visualized two faces, one while making the baby (making love) and another during childbirth.  I was thinking that the face of someone having sex would be happy looking and the childbirth face would be intense and full of pain.  But when I went to face research (yes, I did research) I came across a site that had portraits of people right at the moment of orgasm. And guess what? They looked almost exactly like the face of someone giving childbirth.  Intense, scrunched up, teeth gritted and looking like they were about to explode, which of course, metaphorically at least, they are in both cases.

Pleasure and pain aren’t that far apart.  Whether it’s people eating hot chiles that make the roof of their mouth burn off, or people enjoying going into a polar bear plunge in February, people combine the two.  It can be combined in sex, eating, vacationing, relationships, drinking, sports, etc. You name it and you will likely find a co-mingling of pain and pleasure.

Keeping Promises

Promises are the same way. It’s easy to promise something when you are turned on, when you are feeling or pursuing pleasure.  That’s why we constantly are telling young women and men to not trust what a person promises when he or she is wanting sex, right?  The painful part of a promise is in the delivery, not in the proclamation.   If there has been any struggle for myself and most fathers and mothers I know, it’s that.  How to deliver on your promise. Your promise to your wife, husband or partner, to your kids, your work, your extended family.  As I have gotten older I realize I am much happier and more successful when I simply let my delivery be my promise and forego the grand proclamation, how about you?

 

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Drawing and Commentary by Marty Coleman

Quote is Anonymous

Promises are like babies, easy to make, hard to deliver

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When Promises Break You – Promises, Promises #3

 

I promise that this is #3 of my Promises, Promises series. 

 

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Do or Die

During my first marriage, I broke promises.  Somewhere along the line the combination of me breaking those promises and my wife’s own issues and realizations, led her to file for divorce.  She made one statement that has stuck with me all these years.  It was the statement that clarified for me how bad she saw her situation.  She said, “I feel if I stay, I will die.”

There really wasn’t much arguing to do with a statement like that.  She had reached a point, whether I understood it or not, where the promise she made to marry and stay married was going to break her.  She needed to save herself and the only way in her mind at that point was to divorce me.  I didn’t fight it.

Compassion For Breaking

I am not a fan of divorce. But I understand how it can come to pass when what seemed to be just a small ring around your finger becomes a ball and chain around your neck.  I wish rational arguments could sometimes win the day, but I know that the human heart and human needs are such that rationality isn’t what drives us into a marriage and it isn’t what causes us to dissolve a marriage. 

All this just to suggest we have some mercy and compassion for those who feel the need to divorce, to break the marital vow before it breaks them.  Really, truly listening deep to what is going on inside their heart and mind is the best way to assure you understand.

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Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman

Quote by Jennifer Donnelly, 1963 – not dead yet, American writer

Jennifer Donnelly

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It’s a bad thing to break a promise, but it’s also bad to let a promise to break you 

Artists I Love – Alexander Archipenko

 

The Hidden Gems

There is a museum here in Tulsa, a gem relatively unknown outside of Oklahoma and the art world. Philbrook Museum of Art was originally an Italian inspired mansion built in 1927 by Waite Phillips of Phillips 66 lineage.  He and his wife gave the estate to Tulsa in 1938 as an art center and it’s been Tulsa’s center of art appreciation and education ever since.

 

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Philbrook Museum of Art and Gardens

 

Alexander Archipenko is also a gem relatively unknown outside the art world.  If you know Cubist and Modernist art history, specifically sculpture, you may have heard of him. Otherwise it’s not likely.

 

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Alexander Archipenko, 1887-1964

 

Giddy Rediscovery

Even though I am an artist and studied art history, I know of Archipenko for a more personal reason.   My grandparents had a great collection of art in their house growing up.  Most were mid-twentieth century American drawings and prints.  But they had one art piece that was different than all the rest. It was a small figurative sculpture by Alexander Archipenko.

I had largely forgotten about this sculpture when In 2012 I was leading a group of photographers on a photo shoot called ‘Black and White at Philbrook’.  I turned into one of the 72 rooms of the mansion/museum and found this in front of me.

 

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Standing Concave, Bronze – Philbrook Museum of Art

 

I knew immediately it was the sculpture. I knew it wasn’t THE sculpture because the one my grandparents had was silver plated bronze and this was just bronze.  But it was the same sculpture made from the same mold.  Most bronze sculptures are made in multiples.

I actually got giddy about this unexpected find. I remember telling some of the people with me about it being the same one I had been around as a kid.  I wasn’t at all sure they believed me, but I was excited nonetheless.  It brought me back to my youth, to my grandparent’s house and to my unadulterated love of art.

Here is another view of the piece I took in color so I could send it to my family to double check my memory.  My older sister at first wasn’t sure it was the right one but eventually came to the conclusion it was.

 

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Standing Concave – Philbrook Museum of Art

 

 

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Standing Concave / Glorification of Beauty, 1914

 

Touching and Being Touched By

This is the piece. It looks silver but it is actually a bronze sculpture that has been silver plated.  All the grandkids loved to touch it’s cool surfaces and trace the lines (maybe the boys a bit more than the girls).  I may have been a giggly little boy thinking it was fun to touch a naked sculpture at some point  but what I ended with was a love of the form, style and surface. I am sure Mama Powell wasn’t happy about all the fingerprints but I don’t remember it being a big deal.  This piece, and the others in their home, really were the visual starting point for me wanting to be an artist from an early age.

I found out in my research that it actually has two names.  It’s listed most often as ‘Glorification of Beauty’ but I remember the word concave always being associated with it and it is also named ‘Standing Concave’  The Philbrook piece is named that way for example.  Funny how that goes, I know in my own work I might look at an image years later, not remember the title and retitle it something completely different so it would make sense that it could have two names.

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Alexander Archipenko (1887-1964)

Archipenko was originally from Kiev in Russia (now part of Ukraine).  He moved to Paris in 1908, becoming a creative contemporary of Picasso, Malevich, Duchamp, Derain and others.  He moved quickly into a cubist style, but with a sleek sensibility to his work that presaged the Art Moderne design style of later decades.

He was one of the legendary artists exhibiting in the 1913 Armory show in New York City, one of the most controversial art exhibitions in history.  His work was mocked (as were many other modern artist’s work) by the New York and American press.  In spite of the negative reaction, it wasn’t long before he and many other European artists immigrated to America and established themselves and their styles as the preeminent forces directing the future of art around the world.

 

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Torso, 1914

 

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Gondolier, 1914

 

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Blue Dancer, 1913

 

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As I mentioned, Archipenko was involved with some of the premier artists of his day.  These sculptures, with a more theatrical and painterly emphasis than the bronzes sculptures , show in the use of color, form and material and with references to the circus, harlequins, and the female figure, the influence of Picasso and Duchamp in particular.

 

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Carrousel Pierrot, 1913

 

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In the Boudoir (Before the Mirror), 1915

 

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Medrano II, 1913

 

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Composition, 1920 – work on paper

 

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As he matured as an artist, he retained his interest in those same two directions.

 

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Floating Torso, 1940

 

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Queen of Sheba, 1961

 

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Architectural Figure, 1950

 

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In his later years he won outdoor commissions that allowed him to create in a much larger scale than he had before.

 

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Gateway Sculptures, University of Missouri, Kansas City, 1950

 

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King Solomon, 1968 (cast based on small model completed before his death), University of Pennsylvania, Philadelphia campus

 

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There were many other sculptors working during the first half of the 20th century that both influenced and were influenced by Archipenko.  Here are two of them.

 

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Jacques Lipchitz, Girl with Braided Hair, 1914

 

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Henry Moore with his sculpture

 

Remember, seeing art is one of the best ways of insuring you will see the world in it’s fullest light.  It’s always worth exploring art.

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If you would like to know more about Archipenko a great place to start is at the Archipenko Foundation, headed by his widow, Frances Archipenko Gray.  

 

You can see others in my ‘Artists I Love’ series here:

Fall/Winter 2016

Winter/Spring 2015

Summer 2014

Winter 2012/2013

Winter 2011/2012

 

You can also find them via the ‘Artists’ drop down menu on the right.

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The Knitter in Love – A Short Short Story

 

 

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Prologue

She moved to Denver and told herself she was going to change things, get out and start living again, even if it was just to go get coffee in the morning.

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Chapter One

The Knitter liked to go to Starbucks to knit.  From her chair at the window she would watch for her secret crush to come in, as he did every morning.  She first saw him the very first day she moved to Denver.  He was wearing a suit that reminded her of her late husband.  He ordered a tall cup of straight coffee, no room for cream, and left promptly.

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Chapter Two

She saw him every Monday, Wednesday and Friday for 7 months straight.  She worked the afternoon/evening shift on those days and so had time to relax in the mornings.  He eventually noticed her always being there and would smile, wave or say good morning to her as he left.  He disappeared when summer arrived.  The knitter was incredibly sad about this, more so than she expected.

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Chapter Three

When fall arrived so did he.  He came in just like clockwork on the first Wednesday after Labor Day.  The knitter was very happy.  She had dreamt about him more and more while he was absent and she thought that was all that she would have of him.  But she had been so sad for so long that she was happy to be dreaming about something, someone other than her husband, whom she had been married to for 20 years before the heart attack killed him.  It had been 2 years when she moved to Denver and he still was vivid in her dreams up until that summer.  

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Chapter Four

The secret crush smiled broadly when he saw the knitter in her usual seat. For the first time he actually walked over to her and introduced himself. His name was Dave and he worked just down the street as a engineer for an Oil and Gas Company.  He had been gone for the summer, assigned to Pakistan for 3 months to help retrofit some old oil fields with new safety equipment. That was his specialty.  He ask the knitter her name.  He thought Kiki was a very happy name and that it fit her.  

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Chapter Five

The next Friday he was already at Starbucks when she arrived, and he was sitting in her seat.  He got up and nervously told her he had gotten there early to have time to talk to her. He asked if she liked picnics.  She said yes and smiled.  He asked if she liked romantic movies. She said yes and smiled even more.  He asked if she would like to go see a movie on the lawn at the local park. He would bring the picnic dinner.  She said yes and smiled even more.  He was smiling broadly as well.  

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Chapter Six

They went to the movie and fell in love.  She cried when she got home, realizing how lucky she was. He did the same.  Four months later they were married.  

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Epilogue

She still goes to Starbucks 3 mornings a week to knit. But now they come in and get their coffee together.  His office is close enough that he can walk the rest of the way to work and she stays knitting, with a smile on her face.

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The End

Story and drawing by Marty Coleman

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Running in the Rain – Promises, Promises #2

 

There is a 100% chance of this drawing being #2 in my Promises series.

 

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Running in the Rain

When I start coaching a new season many of my runners worry about what we do if it rains.  I tell them one of my favorite things to do is run in the rain and that we run in it unless lightning is present.  They are not at all sure they like the idea.

But when we start out on a long run in stifling, drenching heat and humidity but with ominous clouds promising rain it doesn’t take long for them to be begging for the rain to actually fall.  Those days when it does, it’s glorious. We are energized and rejuvenated and happy.  We are little kids puddle jumping.  But those days when it teases but doesn’t rain, then we are miserable because not only are we still hot and drenched in sweat, but our expectations of a cooling rain are left unfulfilled. 

Cloud Promises

Promises are like that cloud threatening to rain.  Our expectations go up and our disappoint is all the greater if the promise isn’t kept.  It’s often better for the promise to not even appear in advance.  You simply act on what you know you have purposed in your heart privately and the cooling and nurturing rain falls.  No promise, just action.

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Drawing and commentary by Marty Coleman

Quote is an Arabian Proverb

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A promise is a cloud, fulfillment is the rain